Have you ever been bullied?( and no not at a poker table)
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havnt posted for a while or even replyed to any dlkiv, but this has touched my heart, and pisssed me off abit as i have kids and if any think like this happend to them, il hit the roof no child or teenager should go through this pain of being bullyed, il give the boy who made the video alot of credit and balls to do this, but i hope he gets the help that he needs after making the video,
i think people should be aware more of the effects of being bullyed
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Bullying is no joke, and as a parent I keep a close eye on the situation at school, and even though they are in grade school my wife and I have already had to pressure the school on a couple of occasions to take action against bullying.
My first couple of years of high school were miserable due to this, and yes I thought of ending it at that young age. Luckily the year I turned 15 I grew like a weed, and filled out that summer with a heck of a lot of weight lifting, after which the bullying fell to nothing. Keep track of what your kids are doing, keep lines of communication open, look for signs that things are not well, and good luck...
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Actually, I hope lots of people do see it and get inspiration, the real sad bit was his other video, certinally seams to be him, quite cocky then whilst telling the world it was a fake. Not to offend anyone.
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Posted by B1gfoot: Actually, I hope lots of people do see it and get inspiration, the real sad bit was his other video, certinally seams to be him, quite cocky then whilst telling the world it was a fake. Not to offend anyone.
I did not see that video but IMO regardless ,( and no offense taken B1gfoot ), this is an issue that is worldwide and needs to be visible to all.
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One thing that many people miss out on when talking about this topic is the bully him/herself, In my school there were 2 bullies, nothing major, I myself never suffered, but one was in my class, a very angry lad who picked on the weak, I met him in a pub years later and had a few beers, during his school years his mum was suffering with cancer, very ill at home for a few years, no one knew....What I'm saying is sometimes people don't see the real problem with bullying, the underlining factors, and tend to only feel sorry and attend to the victim. The other one is still a bully, I know he had problems at home(word gets around, nothing stays secret) but now days he loves a random fight and very proud to tell people, such a sad life, and he likes the hard stuff, people might think he is getting what he deserves, I don't I think he got what he deserved and is angry at the world, still he is a tosser, people in worse situation end up better and don't blaim others. As with anything, we need to find the cause to deal with these problems, the bully him/herself tends to be a victim too, often forgot.
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I understand that many are bullies due to home life, ( maybe being bullied elsewhere themselves), but not all are like this. I fell very strongly on this as I once found a 13 year old child, in behind a apartment building, bleeding and wanting to die. These where self inflicted wounds. I had seen this little girl almost on a daily basis. I did not know her or her family, as they rented an apartment in the building I managed. This little girl was bullied by a group of neighborhood boy's ,( I found this all out after), on a daily basis. Her parents never took proper care of her and she was picked on for being poor. This little girl had burrs thrown in her hair,( to which it was so bad as she had very long hair but had to have it taken off within an inch), she had feces thrown at her, they put dog poop in her sandwich at school ....... not to mention the verbal abuse with constant taunting , name calling etc. Finally one day ,( the day they cut off her hair), she tried to take her own life.
I feel very strongly about this issue, my son was bullied very badly, a boy in his class at school, my son was 14, his schoolwork took a nose dive, he kept saying he was ill and didnt want to go to school , anyway i went to the school and found out what was going on, i complained to the head teacher and nothing was done, so i took a stand and said unless somethings done my son will not be coming back to school, i also contacted the board of governors, this boy was a nightmare, he even threatened to throw my son under a car after school!! anyway he was expelled in the end , its got to be nipped in the bud , it can have terrible affects
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Posted by ladyred: I feel very strongly about this issue, my son was bullied very badly, a boy in his class at school, my son was 14, his schoolwork took a nose dive, he kept saying he was ill and didnt want to go to school , anyway i went to the school and found out what was going on, i complained to the head teacher and nothing was done, so i took a stand and said unless somethings done my son will not be coming back to school, i also contacted the board of governors, this boy was a nightmare, he even threatened to throw my son under a car after school!! anyway he was expelled in the end , its got to be nipped in the bud , it can have terrible affects
I am glad you took a stand and I hope your son came out of it ok. Sad that the head teacher did nothing.
Yes my son grew up well , hes 20 now , and is a son i can b proud of, the boy that was the bully did come from a bad home life, and ended up in prison , its got to be taken more seriously !
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Posted by SuperNoob: i watched 30 secs of video and stopped
I understand SuperNoob but ,( please do not take this the wrong way ok ), things like this we have to watch to be proactive on and try to make it so it does not happen anymore
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Posted by ladyred: My heart goes out to that poor little girl ! how terrible it went that far what a cruel world we live in
Sometimes it is s very cruel world. Sad.
I wont be posting anymore in this thread as I just wanted to share the video I seen and hope that maybe it helps someone recognize that maybe someone they know is in pain and being bullied, that being child or adult.
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Ouch, is bullying really that common in schools nowadays ?!!
I know many wont belive me when im saying this but i have never witnessed bullying in all my school years so far, when one is reading stuff like this it feels almost unreal. Of course we had people in the class that were shy and didnt say much but they were never bullied in any way, (they were simply left alone, wish i had talked more to them now) and i know in my group of friends we would have never tolerated anything like constant bullying of some person.
Of course we had fights in the early school years and such but it always ended with a "sorry" from both parts.
One thing that could have contributed to the good enviroment could be the small classes we had (20-30 people in the class MAX) and VERY good connection to the teachers. The schools were also divided by age (at age 8 9 10 in one school and then 11 12 13 in a new school and so on ... ).
I have also been raised to respect others feeling and learn to feel empathy for others, i know my friends are raised in the same way ( i live in a small town with about 20 000 people spread over an large area so everyone knows everyone).
But ofcourse everything isnt roses in Finland either the school system is going downhill fast and the suicide rate among young people are still very very high ... i guess i was just extremly lucky to be studying with the people i was.
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very touching video, sad he looks like a normal teenage boy and his parents probably have no idea this is even goin on. i couldnt imagine my child goin through that and definitly donno how id react if i seen my child in this youtube video. my heart would be crushed.
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When i was a kid (10, 11 yo) there was all kinds of bully activities in the school, and more than being bullied, i end up becoming part of a bully group. It was the best way not to be bullied. And once we picked up a smaller kid and throwed him against a soccer goal and he broked the glasses. Than we had to pay for the glasses.
I ve been bully and was bullied. Not anything extreme like nowdays tho. I guess in these days of technology bullies get creative so it s much harder for bullied kid to fight it off. Back when i was kid we solved it in a fight. Win or lose you would free yourself from it. Gotta show them you have balls as well. Life is tough, thats one more thing school teaches you. Anyways these kinda situations where it forces a kid towards suicide is messed up and society should work on solving it more. In the meantime half of Africa is being bullied by lack of food and water and i doubt those 8 milion ppl that "cried" for this kid watching him donated a cent. C'est la vie, cheers.
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Posted by dozn01: havnt posted for a while or even replyed to any dlkiv, but this has touched my heart, and pisssed me off abit as i have kids and if any think like this happend to them, il hit the roof no child or teenager should go through this pain of being bullyed, il give the boy who made the video alot of credit and balls to do this, but i hope he gets the help that he needs after making the video,
i think people should be aware more of the effects of being bullyed
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