Joined: Nov '12
Age: 58 (F)
Hey guy's, I would just like to dedicate this thread to ask mobsters here, there opinion on Bank roll management, and yeah I know this topic comes up too much, but I am personally just starting to realize how important this tool is, if you actually enjoy playing poker and like having money.
I usually deposit $25 witch really cost me $30 because I have to pay processing fees as I buy a pre paid credit cards. I have absolutely no bank roll management skills at all at these low levels as I always tell myself its only $25 dollars go for it, and I listen to myself, I mean I think I have a gambling problem guys, even thou I am a winning online player over all , I seem to gamble every Bank roll I earn by telling my self it's from a $25 deposit you got to $400 and think some how if I lose the $400 its really like losing $25 and try and forget about it, instead of addressing my real problem, with is I am a Degenerate gambler , there I said it and I really would like to change this as I do enjoy playing poker and want too continue playing.
Any positive suggestions in regard too me solving this problem would be appreciated, thought I solved this issue before in the past, but seems I have not.
------------ I would love to understand and comprehend Bankroll management, so I can get to where I want to be, I mean it would be nice to have a 10 K poker bankroll, and be able to play poker tournaments on a regular, following rules to increase the roll instead of decrease
Edited by saynothing (Monday, April 15, 2013 @ 02:17 GMT)
Joined: Dec '12
Age: 42 (M)
Your topic is very interesting. Well, I will tell you about my experiences. This is my story.
I didn't know anything about poker rules, poker hands, poker game in generally untill that moment at 2009 when two big online poker companies offered me a job. It was a very interesting offer for me. I saw thousands of people, chatting at the call centre at different languages. So, the only requirement was that I have to speak perfect at least two foreign languages. So I speak 3, if I count Bulgarian it is 4. So they hired me.
I started to work. They educated me about the poker game, about anything. But after few months I quited the job, because the stress was huge. So, I decided to play online poker. I passed the educational process, so i started to play. 3 years I played only freerolls, without depositing. So, last year I decided to deposit. I deposited more than $500 at PokerStars and I lost it for 3 days. So, I felt very bad. I promissed myslef that I will never deposit.
Now, I play only freerolls and sometimes, every two months I deposit only $10. But nothing more.
Somestimes, I also think that I have gambling problems, but that actually is not very true, because I can controll my self. Rule number one: I don't play poker with my salary. I mean I use maximum $10 of it, but not every month. For example if there is a promotion, deposit $10 and we will give you instant $10 bonus, yes I do this.
The most important thing is that we have to controll ourselves. Not to play with money that we DON'T have, not to play with money that we can NOT afford it.
The 3rd rule is that I never play on online casinos and real casinos too. Because I think this could be very addictive and dangerous.
So, this is my story about poker. I play now only for fun at freerolls. If I win something I try to make a good bankroll. Last time when i won $5 from wolfydan I made it $20. This was my success.
I would strongly reccomend you to read this article, which might help you:
Gambling Addiction and Problem Gambling Signs, Symptoms, and Treatment
Whether you bet on sports, scratch cards, roulette, poker, or slots—in a casino or online problem gambling can strain relationships, interfere with work, and lead to financial catastrophe. You may even do things you never thought you would, like stealing money to gamble or pay your debts.
You may think you can’t stop but, with the right help, you can overcome a gambling problem or addiction and regain control of your life. The first step is recognizing and acknowledging the problem.
Understanding gambling addiction and problem gambling
Gambling addiction, also known as compulsive gambling, is a type of impulse-control disorder. Compulsive gamblers can’t control the impulse to gamble, even when they know their gambling is hurting themselves or their loved ones. Gambling is all they can think about and all they want to do, no matter the consequences.
Compulsive gamblers keep gambling whether they’re up or down, broke or flush, happy or depressed. Even when they know the odds are against them, even when they can’t afford to lose, people with a gambling addiction can’t “stay off the bet.” Gamblers can have a problem, however, without being totally out of control. Problem gambling is any gambling behavior that disrupts your life.
If you’re preoccupied with gambling, spending more and more time and money on it, chasing losses, or gambling despite serious consequences, you have a gambling problem.
Myths & Facts about Gambling Addiction and Problem Gambling
MYTH: You have to gamble every day to be a problem gambler. FACT: A problem gambler may gamble frequently or infrequently. Gambling is a problem if it causes problems.
MYTH: Problem gambling is not really a problem if the gambler can afford it. FACT: Problems caused by excessive gambling are not just financial. Too much time spent on gambling can lead to relationship breakdown and loss of important friendships.
MYTH: Partners of problem gamblers often drive problem gamblers to gamble. FACT: Problem gamblers often rationalize their behavior. Blaming others is one way to avoid taking responsibility for their actions, including what is needed to overcome the problem.
MYTH: If a problem gambler builds up a debt, you should help them take care of it. FACT: Quick fix solutions may appear to be the right thing to do. However, bailing the gambler out of debt may actually make matters worse by enabling gambling problems to continue. Relieving unpleasant and overwhelming feelings without gambling.
Unpleasant feelings such as stress, depression, loneliness, fear, and anxiety can trigger compulsive gambling or make it worse. After a stressful day at work, after an argument with your spouse or coworker, or to avoid more time spent on your own, an evening at the track or the casino can seem like a fun, exciting way to unwind and socialize.
But there are healthier and far less expensive ways to keep unpleasant feelings in check. These may include exercising, meditating, spending time with friends, taking up new hobbies, or exploring relaxation techniques.
For many people, an important aspect of quitting gambling is to find alternate ways to handle these difficult feelings without gambling. Even when gambling is no longer a part of your life, the painful and unpleasant feelings that may have prompted you to gamble in the past will still remain.
So, it’s worth spending some time thinking about the different ways you intend to deal with stressful situations and the daily irritations that would normally trigger you to start gambling.
Signs and symptoms of problem gambling Learn to recognize & reduce hidden stress
Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as the "hidden illness" because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms like there are in drug or alcohol addiction. Problem gamblers typically deny or minimize the problem. They also go to great lengths to hide their gambling.
For example, problem gamblers often withdraw from their loved ones, sneak around, and lie about where they’ve been and what they’ve been up to.
Do I have a gambling problem? You may have a gambling problem if you:
• Feel the need to be secretive about your gambling. You might gamble in secret or lie about how much you gamble, feeling others won’t understand or that you will surprise them with a big win.
• Have trouble controlling your gambling. Once you start gambling, can you walk away? Or are you compelled to gamble until you’ve spent your last dollar, upping your bets in a bid to win lost money back?
• Gamble even when you don’t have the money. A red flag is when you are getting more and more desperate to recoup your losses. You may gamble until you’ve spent your last dollar, and then move on to money you don’t have- money to pay bills, credit cards, or things for your children. You may feel pushed to borrow, sell, or even steal things for gambling money. It’s a vicious cycle. You may sincerely believe that gambling more money is the only way to win lost money back. But it only puts you further and further in the hole.
• Family and friends are worried about you. Denial keeps problem gambling going. If friends and family are worried, listen to them carefully. Take a hard look at how gambling is affecting your life. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help. Many older gamblers are reluctant to reach out to their adult children if they've gambled away their inheritance. But it's never too late to make changes for the better.
Treatment for problem gambling
Every gambler is unique and so needs a recovery program tailored specifically to him or her. What works for one gambler won’t necessarily work for you. The biggest step in treatment is realizing you have a problem with gambling. It takes tremendous strength and courage to own up to this, especially if you have lost a lot of money and strained or broken relationships along the way. Don’t despair, and don’t try to go it alone. Many others have been in your shoes and have been able to break the habit.
Overcoming a gambling addiction or problem is never easy. But recovery is possible if you stick with treatment and seek support. To find help in your area, see Resources and References below. Group support for gambling addiction and problem gambling.
Gamblers Anonymous is a twelve-step recovery program patterned after Alcoholics Anonymous. A key part of a 12-step program is choosing a sponsor. A sponsor is a former gambler who has time and experience remaining free from addiction, and can often provide invaluable guidance and support.
Therapy for problem gambling
Cognitive-behavioral therapy for problem gambling focuses on changing unhealthy gambling behaviors and thoughts, such as rationalizations and false beliefs. It also teaches problem gamblers how to fight gambling urges, deal with uncomfortable emotions rather than escape through gambling, and solve financial, work, and relationship problems caused by the addiction.
The goal of treatment is to “rewire” the addicted brain by thinking about gambling in a new way. A variation of cognitive behavioral therapy, called the Four Steps Program, has been used in treatment of compulsive gambling as well. The goal is to change your thoughts and beliefs about gambling in four steps; re-label, reattribute, refocus, and revalue.
More comprehensive information about cognitive behavioral therapy and applying it to your situation is found below.
Seeing a therapist does not mean you are weak or can’t handle your problems. Therapy is for people who are smart enough to realize they need help. It can give you tools and support for reframing your thoughts that will last a lifetime.
Maintaining recovery for problem gambling and gambling addiction.
As you may have noticed, quitting problem gambling is relatively easy. It’s staying in recovery- making a permanent commitment to stay away from gambling- that is such a challenge. Maintaining recovery for problem gambling and gambling addiction is possible if you surround yourself with people to whom you’re accountable, avoid tempting environments, give up control of your finances (at least at first), and find exciting or enjoyable activities to replace gambling.
Changing your lifestyle and making healthier choices.
One way to stop yourself from problem gambling is to analyze what is needed for gambling to occur, work on removing these elements from your life and replace them with healthier choices.
The four elements needed for problem gambling to continue are:
• A decision: Before gambling occurs, the decision to gamble has been made. If you have an urge to gamble: stop what you are doing and call someone, think about the consequences to your actions, tell yourself to stop thinking about gambling, and find something else to do immediately.
• Money: Gambling cannot occur without money. Get rid of your credit cards, let someone else be in charge of your money, have the bank make automatic payments for you, and keep a limited amount of cash on you at all times.
• Time: Gambling cannot occur if you don’t have the time. Schedule enjoyable recreational time for yourself that has nothing to do with gambling, find time for relaxation, and plan outings with your family.
• A game: Without a game or activity to bet on there is no opportunity to gamble. Don’t put yourself in tempting environments or locations. Tell the gambling establishments you frequent that you have a gambling problem and ask them to restrict you from betting at their casinos and establishments. Block online gambling sites on your computer.
Maintaining recovery from problem gambling or gambling addiction depends a lot on the reasons why you were gambling in the first place. Once you’ve quit gambling, reasons such as depression, loneliness, or boredom will remain, so in order to maintain your recovery, you’ll need to address these problems. There are alternative behaviors you can substitute for gambling.
Some examples include:
Reason for Gambling Sample Substitute Behaviors
To provide excitement, get a rush of adrenaline Sport or a challenging hobby, such as mountain biking, rock climbing, or Go Kart racing
To be more social, overcome shyness or isolation Counseling, enroll in a public speaking class, join a social group, connect with family and friends, volunteer, find new friends.
To numb unpleasant feelings, not think about problems. Therapy, consult Helpguide’s Bring Your Life into Balance toolkit Boredom or loneliness
Find something you’re passionate about such as art, music, sports, or books then find others with the same interests.
To relax after a stressful day As little as 15 minutes of daily exercise can relieve stress. Or deep breathing, meditation, or massage
To solve money problems The odds are always stacked against you so it’s far better to seek help with debts from a credit counselor Dealing with gambling cravings
Feeling the urge to gamble is normal, but that doesn’t make it any easier when you are struggling to make better choices. Remember, as you build healthier choices and a good support network, resisting cravings will be easier and easier. The following strategies can help.
• Reach out for support. Call a trusted family member, meet a friend for coffee, or go to a Gamblers Anonymous meeting.
• Do something else. Distract yourself with another activity, such as cleaning your house, going to the gym, or watching a movie.
• Postpone gambling. Tell yourself that you’ll wait five minutes, fifteen minutes, or an hour — however long you think you can hold out. As you wait, the urge to gamble may pass or become weak enough to resist.
• Give yourself a reality check. Visualize what will happen if you give in to the urge to gamble. Think about how you’ll feel after all your money is gone and you’ve disappointed yourself and your family again.
• Avoid Isolation. If you gamble to socialize or be around other people, try healthier ways to build a social network. Volunteer, connect with old friends, make new friends.
If you aren’t able to resist the gambling craving, don’t be too hard on yourself or use it as an excuse to give up. Overcoming a gambling addiction is a tough process. You may slip from time to time; the important thing is to learn from your mistakes and continue working towards recovery.
Helping a family member with a gambling problem Does my loved one have a gambling problem?
If your loved one has a gambling problem, he or she might:
• Become increasingly defensive about his or her gambling. The more a problem gambler is in the hole, the more the need to defend gambling as a way to get money. Your loved one may get secretive, defensive or even blame you for the need to gamble, telling you that it is all for you and you need to trust in the “big win someday.”
• Suddenly become secretive over money and finances. Your loved one might show a new desire to control household finances, or there might increasingly be a lack of money despite the same income and expenses. Savings and assets might mysteriously dwindle, or there may be unexplained loans or cash advances.
• Become increasingly desperate for money to fund the gambling. Credit card bills may increase, or your loved one may ask friends and family for money. Jewelry or other items easily pawned for money may mysteriously disappear.
How to help with a gambling problem?
Compulsive and problem gamblers often need the support of their family and friends to help them in their struggle to stop gambling. But the decision to quit has to be theirs. As much as you may want to, and as hard as it is seeing the effects, you cannot make someone stop gambling.
If your family member has a gambling problem, you may have many conflicting emotions. You may try to cover up for a loved one or spend a lot of time and energy trying to keep him or her from gambling.
At the same time, you might be furious at your loved one for gambling again and tired of trying to keep up the charade. The gambler may also have borrowed (or even stolen) money from you with no way to pay it back. He or she may have sold family possessions or run up huge debts on joint credit cards. When faced with the consequences of their actions, a gambler can suffer a crushing drop in self-esteem. This is one reason why there is a high rate of suicide among problem gamblers.
Preventing suicide in problem gamblers.
When gamblers are feeling hopeless, the risk of suicide is high. It’s very important to take any thoughts or talk of suicide seriously. If you or someone you care about is suicidal, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. For a suicide helpline outside the U.S., visit Befrienders Worldwide.
Tools for family members of problem gamblers:
• Start by helping yourself. You have a right to protect yourself emotionally and financially. Don’t blame yourself for the gambler’s problems. The right support can help you make positive choices for yourself, and balance encouraging your loved one to get help without losing yourself in the process.
• Don’t go it alone. It can feel so overwhelming coping with a loved one’s problem gambling that it may seem easier to rationalize their requests and problems “this one last time”. Or you might feel ashamed, feeling like you are the only one who has problems like this. Reaching out for support will make you realize that many families have struggled with this problem. Or you might consider therapy to help sort out the complicated feelings that arise from coping with a problem gambler.
• Set boundaries in managing money. If a loved one is serious about getting help for problem gambling, it may help if you take over the family finances to make sure the gambler stays accountable and to prevent relapse. However, this does not mean you are responsible for micromanaging the problem gamblers impulses to gamble. Your first responsibilities are to ensure that your own finances and credit are not at risk.
• Consider how you will handle requests for money. Problem gamblers often become very good at asking for money, either directly or indirectly. They may use pleading, manipulation or even threats and blaming to get it. It takes time and practice to learn how you will respond to these requests to ensure you are not enabling the problem gambler and keeping your own dignity intact.
Do’s and Don'ts for Partners of Problem Gamblers
• Seek the support of others with similar problems; attend a self-help group for families such as Gam-Anon. • Explain problem gambling to the children. • Recognize your partner’s good qualities. • Remain calm when speaking to your partner about his or her gambling and its consequences. • Let your partner know that you are seeking help for your own sake because of the way gambling affects you and the children. • Understand the need for treatment of problem gambling despite the time it may involve. • Take control of family finances; review bank and credit card statements.
• Preach, lecture, or allow yourself to lose control of your anger. • Make threats or issue ultimatums unless you intend to carry them out. • Exclude the gambler from family life and activities. • Expect immediate recovery, or that all problems will be resolved when the gambling stops. • Bail out the gambler. • Cover-up or deny the existence of the problem to yourself, the family, or others.
Posted by saynothing: I mean I think I have a gambling problem guys, even thou I am a winning online player over all , I seem to gamble every Bank roll I earn by telling my self it's from a $25 deposit you got to $400 and think some how if I lose the $400 its really like losing $25 and try and forget about it, instead of addressing my real problem, with is I am a Degenerate gambler
I suspect this is a very common problem. Poker sites make huge amounts of money. This money has to come from somewhere, i.e. players losing their bankroll and depositing.
You say "even thou I am a winning online player over all", are you really? Over all means, that your winnings exceed your losses. If you take into account each time you've deposited (from the first moment you started playing), and still show a profit, consider that you are doing very well. Only a small percentage of real money players can claim to be winning over all.
So if you are winning over all, maybe the problem is not that urgent, and it's more a question of fixing the leaks that cause you to lose your entire bankroll. Try choosing games that are congruent with your bankroll (e.g. at least 20 buyins for cash games, and maybe 100 buyins for MTTs; just google it...).
If however you can grind up your bankroll, but than start playing recklessly outside your bankroll, and lose it all again; that sounds more like gambling, and you should stop that IMO. Just continue what works, and slowly work your way up to bigger stakes when the bankroll warrants it.
Joined: Nov '12
Age: 58 (F)
Hey, Thanks for the reply's, and peter now that I fully understand what a true gambler is I don't meet the nasty requirements lol, but I do have leaks in my game I am trying to fix before moving on with any more deposits.
------------ @admin, Hi I am randomly getting negative thumbs down for no reason above is proof of this, are you able to figure out who is tampering with my account ?
------------ this morning I had -32 and now its at -42 and growing , somebody dose not like me? well I don't give a rats asss but do not tamper with me losers
------------ lol I suspect who ever voted that I should see a doctor is the guilty party doing all these negative attack on me for no fcuking reason, GO FCUK YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Edited by saynothing (Monday, April 15, 2013 @ 18:33 GMT)
I had the same problems myself, depositing money, getting a win here and there but never keeping my "bankroll" intact. I used to deposit $20 every now and then just to play some games for entertainment but I never really won anything and when I did, I just played bigger buy-in tournaments, out of my depth and I would think "it's only $20" when in fact it would be my winnings. I checked my stats online and over 3 years i was down $1700!!!! I didn't even realise the money going. MADNESS!!!!
I stopped playing online about 2 years ago and followed discussion threads and forums for advice. I started to play in my local card club most Monday nights in a $30 freeze out. I would watch the better players and ask questions about everything to try and learn. At the start I would always be one of the first eliminated but over time by watching and listening to what the better players had to say I began going deep, making final tables and getting the odd win. I also made some new friends and had a lot of fun something that doesn't happen online. (usually)
About 2 months ago my friend told me about a site offering $17 for new players so I signed up for that. Instead of playing one or two $5 or $10 games I told myself to play $3 games and less. I got a win in one of the $3 games for $288. I withdrew $250 straight away, leaving $38 which was enough for more than 10 games. I have taken one or two shots at a $25 game but so far after 65 games on this new site I am in profit of about $400. I think. After tasting success and speaking to people whos opinion I respect they told me to stick to $3 and $5 games. I am doing this regularly now on my two days off work. I don't play during the week and might play 3 or 4 games (freeze outs ONLY, NO REBUYS) on my two days off. It is a system that seems to be working for me, or I may just be running good but not playing during the week lets me focus on work and because I only play two days a week, I don't get bored with it and make (many) stupid decisions, like taking shots at $25 games and just giving my winnings back.
I hope this helps and next time you deposit $25 just play $2 and $3 games. You might not think the prizes are great to look at but trust me once you see $288 in your account after a $3 tournament you will be smiling. And even if you minimum cash, it is still profit to play maybe 2 more $3 games.
Joined: Dec '12
Age: 42 (M)
Welcome to The BankrollMob Forum! I see this is your first post! Congratulations, buddy. Your post is very good. I am really happy that you have learned so much from your poker experiences, stayed possitive and finally you reached the goal with this special prize of $288.
All we have to learn from our mistakes. I play now only freerolls. Yestarday I won $2.70 from a freeroll - 30 000 players, I finished 25 and I got $2.75 which I made $10 at the ring tables.
I wish you good luck at the tables. And please, when you win something, please post a screenshot of the lobby here at this thread: