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hi there ive been playing poker for over 9 years now on line and lost alot of money, havnt we all...
but ive won here and now.. mainly lost thou... ive just lost my last $50 but while i was playing i felt uneasy for some reason i wasnt botherd if i lost or won,( has this happened to you?) if i was gonna be good at this i would of won big by now wouldnt i !!!! well after 9 years i do know the basic of poker but i feel poker is not for me it really upset me cause ive never been good at doing owt in this life and i thought i was good at poker but the truth is im not and ive just found that out, well ive just come to terms with it its heart breaking why do we all think that we are good at some think when the turth is we are not, but we still belive we are, this was my down fall
dollar after dollar chasing our money sometime we do win big but mainy loose more than we win!!!
shall i quit poker for good or just have a couple of month off playing on line and save my bank account from being in the red, i dont know what else to write about how i feel about poker may be im fed with it, im not feeling sorry for my self ive learned alot about poker but not the nack of winning big and staying there, how the heck do you become a pro at poker a millionaire and that, big respect to them cause ive tryed and failed at the end of the day they have the skill and i dont......
please i like to hear your comment about this would really help me out on what to do
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hi i play too nine years and i had bad times and good times. I not the best player but i think i´m a good amateur and i´m learning every year more of poker. I make many mistake´s (play to long,go tilt and so on) and lost more money then i win. And i say more then one times i do not play poker anymore i think anyone where played poker say that anyday. I got a few strategie´s to go not broke maybe that´s help u. - don´t play so long and make a break - maybe u deposit 50$ and cashout 50$ when u reach 100,make a cashout when have a good bankroll,when i reach 300$ i make a cashout from 100-150$ - i play more live games then online it´s better to see the other players - have more then one site ,i play on 3 site´s when i have a bad run on a site i change to another site - make a break from 1-2 hours when u lost to much money
on the other side when u really got a problem and u have no fun when u play and lost more money as u have it´s time to end or make a break.I´ve make a break for 3-4 month for 2 year´s
ok my english are not the best hope u understand all bye
Joined: Apr '09
Location: Australia
Age: 40 (M)
Posts: 6483
I'd look at the reasons why you lose.. For me, I'm a losing player, but when I'm focused and playing my A game, I'm a winning player. I lose because of gambling tendencies (BR hits $400, so I play NL600 lol) and boredom and TILT etc. When I lose, it's generally because I'm doing something I know better than to do, rarely I lose when I think I'm doing everything right.
Maybe is same for you ? maybe is different. I can't say, but for me, becomming a winning player has a lot more to do with discipline than skill at this point (at least for the levels I'm playing on)
Anyway, I think if you're like me, then you need to seriously think about whether you can gain the discipline to play responsibly and to a tight BRM. And if you don't have this problem, but just lack skills, then maybe just think of it as a hobby ? Most things in life cost $$ so why not this ? Stick to free bankrolls, freerolls and small deposits and not worry about win/lose
If your at an extreme end of an addiction and dropping way to much money, then it's time to think about counselling, I have been there for gambling before (poker actually helps me here as I don't blow all my money in an hour on poker lol)
Posted by dozn01: hi there ive been playing poker for over 9 years now on line and lost alot of money, havnt we all...
but ive won here and now.. mainly lost thou... ive just lost my last $50 but while i was playing i felt uneasy for some reason i wasnt botherd if i lost or won,( has this happened to you?) if i was gonna be good at this i would of won big by now wouldnt i !!!! well after 9 years i do know the basic of poker but i feel poker is not for me it really upset me cause ive never been good at doing owt in this life and i thought i was good at poker but the truth is im not and ive just found that out, well ive just come to terms with it its heart breaking why do we all think that we are good at some think when the turth is we are not, but we still belive we are, this was my down fall
dollar after dollar chasing our money sometime we do win big but mainy loose more than we win!!!
shall i quit poker for good or just have a couple of month off playing on line and save my bank account from being in the red, i dont know what else to write about how i feel about poker may be im fed with it, im not feeling sorry for my self ive learned alot about poker but not the nack of winning big and staying there, how the heck do you become a pro at poker a millionaire and that, big respect to them cause ive tryed and failed at the end of the day they have the skill and i dont......
please i like to hear your comment about this would really help me out on what to do
One thing that really impressed me about this post is the point that you admit you are not as good as you thought you were.
That for me speaks volumes about your honesty and your willingness to learn.
I genuinely believe that anyone can improve their game at any time as long as they want to.
If you were to type in pokerjokerz into google and go to the first site you see, theres a site there that can offer you alot of help with some really good players. ALl of whom started off at the same point as you did..
Joined: May '08
Location: Sweden
Age: 55 (M)
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It is a sign of strength that you can admit you lose, not because of bad luck or tilt, but because the other players are better than you.
I voted for you to stop playing poker. If you have not become a winning player for nine years, and you lose your last money, poker is probably not for you.
Of course we need losing players, for others to win. But these should be people that just loves to play, and throw in an occasional 50 just for lesiure, not people that acctually lose a lot expecting to win.
Voted "Yes" for now, take a break. After some time off you will start to see the light again and restart that fire. I quit playing 3 years ago and just started up again recenlty. I think time away let's you see the mistakes you make and you can logically rethink everything that's been going on and come up with ways not to make those mistakes again. My big problem was bankroll management and patients. The two things that will crush any poker player in a heart beat. I'll admit I made some horrible mistakes and quit too, I even laugh when I look back at it. I learned to think before acting on impulse and also find myself trying learn more about playing. To be honest I spend more time studying the game than I actually do playing. These posts above mine are all good. So yes a break is good, I took one and believe it helped. Also, I don't think you are the only one that has ever felt like this before too. If you look at some of the top pros, some of them have gone busto at some point in there career. If I remember right, Ted Forrest once was so broke that he was eating "Hot Dog" soup from a shelter.
Joined: Jan '09
Location: Italy
Age: 53 (M)
Posts: 3871
I'm afraid you shall quit: first of all because reading your post it seems to me u are a too much addict and it could be dangerous for your personal financies and second because you are no more enjoing ppoker playing: so if u don't enjoy an hobby why keeping it on? have a break and have a look around u: ask yourself what do u like and do it, without poker u will have a lot of time to dedicate to new hobbies.
Joined: Apr '08
Location: Finland
Age: 35 (M)
Posts: 1613
I got very tired of pokr a few months ago and havent played online poker since then ... and it feels surprisingly good not to get stressed everyday from bad-beats and losing money. I didnt play for a lot of money but when i lost i really got upset and pissed off
I think i will never play online poker again ... only live
Joined: Oct '08
Location: United Kingdom
Age: 43 (M)
Posts: 1086
I think a lot of us have been there, I started off a losing player as I didn't follow a decent bankroll management, now I do and feel more comfortable playing and I'm a winning player in the long run.
You've got to ask yourself a few questions:
1. Do I still enjoy playing? 2. Do I want to get better? 3. Am I prepared to learn, and commit to it?
If you're answers are yes, then I suggest you join a training site like CardRunners or DuecesCracked, I highly recommend them, CRs was a massive eye opener. I was in the same situation as you, and I decided to commit and it worked out for me.
I also vote NO, because as always you have bad and good times in poker. Thats the game POKER and s**t happens and very big luck happens. I think your problem is that after 9 years of winning you were thinking that you are the best and can read everyones move. But the best medicine for you now would be little bit of respect for other players and back to the basics of poker. Good luck!
Joined: Apr '09
Location: Portugal
Age: 44 (M)
Posts: 4827
Dont quit poker, its not the games fault... you need to rest, to try and play with other strategy for a month, always doing the same. So you play for 9 years: do you have defined to yourself which hands to go and not to go, no matter the pot? you didnt? so do it, write it in a paper and go play with the paper in front of you. Make your own statistics: how many times have you lost and won with each hand. Look at the game in a different perspective, play it diferent for a while. You will see poker with other "eyes", and then, after two or three months, you will feel alive for poker again: you'll see! Try it!
Joined: Apr '09
Location: Portugal
Age: 37 (M)
Posts: 469
I know excatly what you are talking abou. There are some phases in our lifes that we just should not play poker. The psicological and humour is very iumportant in this game. There are times that we play and we do not care if we lose or not. My advice: Stop playing for a month!
If you consider poker as a game, just to have fun and, if you're lucky, to earn some money I suggest you not to quit. If you wasted a lot of money and you are disappointed for not having good results in 9 years I think you should have quit some years ago.
Joined: Nov '08
Location: United Kingdom
Age: 47 (M)
Posts: 2194
Its a hard question that comes up often... Shall i quit for a while or not? Every poker player has i'm sure been in this dark dark place at least once..lol But from my own experiance (wich may be limited) having a break does no good what so ever.... I quit a while back and have done a few years ago, each time id study my poker books and go through my poker history trying to improve my game. I'd get it all straight in my head and come back to the game thinking I was "a better player"....Ohh what a mistake . My game was good but as i thought i'd lernt more i'd try putting different things into action (so i actually wasnt playing straight (as i have in the past) mixing it up can be a poor idea if you know winning poker why change it? Thinking you are better than you are is a massive down fall in any ones game. I would suggest..... If you have the grit and determination to give up for a while then go down to micro stakes and limit your losses but keep your eye in and your mind focused on the game.
Joined: Feb '09
Location: Egypt
Age: 45 (M)
Posts: 1
Yes, Please do quit. Run, and Run and then Run away and never get back. Seek help from professionals, or from those people around you- they will be proud of you. Not only you should quit poker, but you should quit all other gambling- if any.
You're very brave to admit what most of us don't want to admit. Gambling sucks, gambling is addictive, gambling is unethical. I used to gamble online for 10 yrs and i lost a big big fortune, some 130 K, while once i have had nearly double this amount in account- but never cashed out- except very few times in 10 years.
We -gamblers- are all sick, addicts and in very bad need for help. Please Please QUIT NOW. and seek help, it does work. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Money is a mean not a goal, if you turn it to a goal in life, you lose the means and the goal and the meaning of life. Please save yourself and your family/friends/psychological health/social life and do QUIT.
Joined: Oct '08
Location: Serbia
Age: 41 (M)
Posts: 69
YES AND I AM ALLOT SIMILAR 2 YOU AND I AM THINKING 2 DO THE SAME. AT LEAST FOR A WHILE. THATS HONESTLY. U SHOULD QUIT FOR A WHILE GO FCK SOME CHICKS...GT DRUNK...GO ON VACATION IF NO MONEY SOMEWHERE CLOSE....BUT JUST FORGET ABOUT IT AT LEAST FOR A COUPLE OF MOUNTHS. THE MAGIC OF GAMBLING IS NOT HOW MUCH U RAISE IN SPECIAL MOMENT, OR HOW MANY HANDS U PLAY. ITS WHEN U SHOULD STOP. REGARDS
Joined: Oct '09
Location: Norway
Age: 47 (M)
Posts: 71
From parts of your post, it seems that your reason for playing poker, the reason you started playing poker actually, was for it to make you a millionaire. If that is the case, then you should quit. Fact is, you should never have started. Poker will not make you a millionaire! If the amount of money you have lost or are losing, is causing problems for you, then quit. It just isn't worth it. If you play for the love of the game, and if you still love the game, stick with it, but keep to live poker with your friends, low stakes, or play for buttons or who's buying the next round, just for the fun of it. Online, go to the play-money tables! Poker doesn't have to be gambling, as Cairo1 suggests. There are skills involved, and even after 9 years, you can get better. And maybe you can come back to real online poker again someday. But if it is gambling to you, and it's the gambling part about it you enjoy, then uninstall the poker clients, turn your computer off, go visit a friend or call a family member, take your wife or girlfriend out to dinner, play Yatzy with your kids or go out and rent Scarface on Bluray tonight. And don't look back. I didn't vote on the poll. The only one who can say yes or no, is you.
may be im fed with it, im not feeling sorry for my self ive learned alot about 
i think anyone where played 
