Joined: Jan '11
Location: United Kingdom
Age: 35 (M)
Posts: 704
hey dozn. i had a very close friend who was addicted 2 gambleing he built up dept an turned to drugs. he wasted his life with issues that may be related to yours. he never got any help because he was to proud to speak to any1 about it. he wasted his life worrying about his addictions he ended up taking his own life. best thing to do is to talk to people who are close to you and will help you. if i can do anything to help some1 to stop making the same mistake my friend made i will. (not sure if your issues are the same or similar but if they are taklk to some1) hope all gets better mate take care
Joined: Apr '09
Location: Australia
Age: 42 (M)
Posts: 6483
I hope the support from random strangers has showed you one thing donz01:
As almost everyone has said, from either going through stuff themselves, or having friends go through similar issues - The worst thing you can do is try and keep it under contorl yourself. If you start telling lies, keep telling lies, etc - you just build a massive web - a deeper hole - and eventually push out the few people there might be there to help you.
Whatever if feels like now- to submit to the help of others and explain yourself to those you love and submit to their care - It's nothing so bad as what it feels like to finally crash and burn completely and have those people turn their back on you forever.
Oh, one other solution - if you do share your issues with someone - if you're lucky enough to have somebody you can trust. You can do what I do:
My gf, of 2.5years, still to this day has my bank card, account details, etc. I havent had gambling problems in a couple years now - but I know all it takes is one bad day and i could easily drain a bank account. So to prevent this - I have no access to our shared funds - I just carry a bit of money - or my gf takes it out for me as I need it.. Occasionally it's a pain in the ass; I need money and I'm not around my gf - but mostly, this has been one of the biggest things that has helped me - simply restricting my direct access to money - that way if I'm having a shitty day, I can't take it out on my bank account.
At any rate - you need to talk to someone - preferably a few people - build a support network.. And if you can - seek professional help as well - avoid the free services IF possible - they're generally run by churches and ultimately try and convert you (trust me).
OH and another thing you can do is when you get paid - spend money on vouchers for supermarkets, grocery stores, clothing stores, etc.. This way you cannot spend it on anything else - because it's in voucher form- so even a week or two after you got paid - you still have grocery money...
or maybe the bat , you pick
